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An Open Letter to Kristina Jackson, Soon to be Mrs. Mills!

Preface: The scene is set! Three weeks of planning has gone without a hitch, and as you read this, I’m walking into JAX in Norman, Oklahoma to a Beauty and Beast themed proposal surprise. Kristina has no idea. She thinks we are going to a company event. The best part about this is her family and friends are there waiting.  She loves the company of others. Her reaction is going to be priceless. I’m so excited to finally start planning a wedding with my best friend.

O my son, O son of my womb, O son of my vows, do not waste your strengths on women, on those who ruin kings. [Proverbs 31: 2]

It’s no coincidence that the name Richard means “King” or “Ruler.” Lord knows I wasted time and strength on girls who will never be close to the woman you are and will continue to be. You have been a blessing to me, no question!

Today, as I ask you to marry me, I want you to know God placed you in my life to save me from myself. I was immature and dumb when I met you, yet you stuck with me even when I didn’t deserve you. Your strength and your ability to deal with me are unrivaled. Your love for me is so unconditional, is frightens me at times. If God didn’t strategically place you in my life, I honestly believe I would’ve made some poor decisions. God knew this, and that’s why he gave me you.

You pushed me to get serious about my relationship with God. You pushed me to take better care of myself. You pushed me to reach my potential in school. To be honest, you were so smart it intimidated me a little bit. It wasn’t till you came around that I started really pushing myself to search for internships and thinking about the future. The results of that accountability are evident today. You calmed me down a lot. I was a jerk before I met you, let’s be honest.

I remember how hard you pushed me to start my blog, and how you inspired me share my story. I vividly remember how serious I got about using my talents and how much my relationship with God grew earlier this year. It was because of you. You always saw the potential I had. You always remind that I’m going to be great and how God has called me to change the world.

The good times with you outweigh the tough times, but I do remember the tough times because you were there through it all.

During my month-long stay in the hospital, you were there for me day and night. You slept in an uncomfortable chair, and you were there each time I needed you. I don’t know how I would have made it through without God, you and my dad.

When we both lost our jobs, you stood next to me as if you had a job and I didn’t. You were even helping me through that tough time when it was my responsibility to be there for you—for us!

I can go on and on about how lucky I am to have you, but I’ll end here with this: The Bible says, “The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD.” Even though you might think you’re the luckiest girl in the world today, the truth is, I am the lucky one. I am blessed, and I can’t wait to spend a thousand more years with you.

You are my virtuous woman. I know because you are hard working, you are smart, trustworthy, you’re energetic ( a little too much sometimes), you extend a helping hand to those in need (even when I have my selfish moments), you forgive easily and you laugh without fear of the future.

That’s what I love about you. Whenever I worry about unimportant things, you are always there to remind me that we have each other, and most importantly, God will always be there for us.

I cannot imagine life without you. You’re the only woman who can deal with someone like me. You’ve done it for five years, and you’ve done it flawlessly.

I love you! Will you marry me?